My Favorite Kind of Clients (It’s Probably Not Who You Think)
People tend to assume there’s a very specific type of client we prefer.
Usually, it’s some version of wealthy, polished, perfectly put-together…maybe a little intimidating. The kind of man who walks into a room like he owns it.
And sometimes, sure. That can be fun.
But if I’m being completely honest, those aren’t usually the ones that stand out.
I remember someone once asking me what my “ideal client” looked like.
And I didn’t really know how to answer at the time, because it’s not about how someone looks at all.
It’s about how they are.
Kindness is the first thing I notice.
Not performative politeness. Not the kind that’s turned on and off when it’s convenient.
Just…genuine kindness.
The way someone speaks to me, the way they move through the evening, the way they treat the people around them without thinking twice about it.
That’s always what lingers.
I’ve had dates with men who wouldn’t turn heads walking into a room…and they ended up being some of my absolute favorites.
And I’ve had dates with men who looked like they stepped out of a magazine, who assumed that was enough.
It never is.
There’s something very attractive about someone who doesn’t feel the need to prove anything.
Someone who isn’t trying to control the dynamic, or impress in an obvious way, or use money as leverage for how the evening should go.
That energy is noticeable immediately.
And not in a good way.
The men I enjoy spending time with the most are the ones who feel easy to be around.
Who show up, settle in, and let the evening unfold without trying to force it into something.
There’s a quiet confidence in that.
And contrary to what people think, I don’t need you to be overly talkative.
Some people are naturally more reserved. Some take a little longer to open up.
That’s completely fine.
There’s something really nice about those quieter moments—sitting across from someone, sharing a drink, letting the silence exist without rushing to fill it.
Not every connection needs constant conversation.
Sometimes it’s just about feeling comfortable in the same space.
And if you are a little more on the shy side…I actually like that.
There’s something very genuine about someone who doesn’t come in trying to dominate the interaction.
It leaves room for things to build naturally.
I’m more than happy to meet you where you are, and if anything, I enjoy slowly bringing someone out of their shell.
Those shifts are always the most rewarding.
I think people underestimate how much we notice energy.
Not in a mystical way. Just in a very human, instinctive way.
You can tell when someone is respectful. When they’re present. When they see you as a person rather than an experience they’ve purchased.
And you can also tell when they don’t.
The truth is, the clients I remember the most aren’t defined by their appearance, or their status, or how much they spent.
They’re defined by how the time felt.
Easy. Relaxed. Enjoyable.
Like something you didn’t have to overthink.
So if you’ve ever wondered what actually makes someone stand out in a good way, it’s not perfection.
It’s not confidence in the loud, obvious sense.
It’s not trying to control the evening or shape it into something specific.
It’s just being someone who is kind, respectful, and present.
That’s it.
And those are always the ones I look forward to seeing again.
